Being a twin mom is kind of like Groundhog Day. Everyday it’s the same thing every single day with a variation in the little dictators’ moods. Now I know babies thrive off routine but do we? Or is this literally the definition of insanity (doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results)? I know my days are monotonous however if there is even a variation on my routine it causes me severe anxiety so I suppose the answer is I also thrive from routine.
But, the last six months have been a total blur. This is the first time I’ve had time to actually do something for myself. The last six months have been continous diaper changes, feeds and playtime on three hour loop. Now I have the babies on a four schedule I literally don’t know what to do with myself. Especially with their two 1-2 hour naps a day. After pumping I actually have some free time. I should clean, right? Screw that, let me see if I can help some twin mom about to lose her sanity like I wish I had.
First, in the last six months I wish I would have had some help. When my husband is home from work he is a saint and helps with everything. However, he is usually working from 7:00 a.m. to about 4:00 p.m. The babies go to bed at 7 so you can do the math of how long my shift is. So, let me preface this by saying if you have help by God take the help. It’s so worth letting you have some time to just breathe and maybe fold that mound of laundry you’ve let pile up. Sometimes its hard to let go and accept help.
Secondly, this is my most sound piece of advice do whatever the hell works best for you and your family. Not what is best for your mother or your mother-in-law but what is best for you. Everyone will have an opinion and some voice is way more annoyingly than others but ignore them, smile and do you! Because at the end of the day those people are not the ones waking up at 3 a.m. to feed your babies. I have my opinions based on what works for me so take what may help and leave the rest. I’m no expert I’m just a first time mom trying to figure this shit out. I will post on here what has helped me including products that were life savers or as the least sanity savers but that’s for a different day and a different blog.
Above, it may have seemed like I was complaining about Groundhog Day playing out everyday but I really wasn’t. There are some moms you’ll see post or blog about how they just go with the flow. One baby will be up and the other will be asleep and they let the baby lead the schedule. That sounds like a recipe to put me in a nut house. I live for my schedule. I know what to expect everyday. I’ve always had both my boys on the same schedule. If one wakes up, I wake up the other. Some will judge but it works for me and them. And I’m not in the insane asylum (yet) so say what you will. My babies sleep, eat and play at the same time. This gives me more “free time”. But I’m a firm believer in doing what works best for you. So, for now I will embrace my Groundhog Day and be thankful I know what to expect!