In honor of today being my second wedding anniversary I’d like to take a minute and share some things I have learned about my marriage since my baby bubs have arrived. Having a baby can be taxing on a relationship now quantify that by two. Prior to the babies we NEVER fought, we may have bickered but never fought. Fast-forward to two screaming inconsolable babies the disagreements ensued. It was a shock to the system but at the end of the day we have each other and the love never wavered. It’s just a new dynamic to the relationship. Here are some things that I have learned in no particular order:
- Make time for each other. For us this does not mean going out and painting the town. We haven’t been able to have a date day since the first week of January. Our time is the evening after putting the babies to bed. They go to bed around 7:15. At that time we put our phones away and share a snack and watch some T.V. and go to bed and talk about our day. It’s our routine but its a reminder that no matter how rough the day was we are still there for one another.
- Understand that sometimes we take out the bad day on the ones that we love most. We both have to have compassion and understanding on those days. We also have to not be too prideful and say sorry for things we may have snapped at each other in those moments. For me I don’t have much social interaction so when my husband enters the door I want to throw the babies at him and start dinner. Even trying my hardest sometimes I am sassy. I’m working on it but all I can say is I’m sorry and continue to strive to be better each day.
- Don’t let the babies divide and conquer. There are days when the babies are hysterical messes. It’s taxing to the mind. Work as a team not as individuals. You get better results with teamwork than being a one man (or woman) show.
- Don’t forget to say I love you. And mean it dammit. In a world of technology it’s easy to say “love u” or “u too” via text message but take a second and really mean it. Not that when you text that it doesn’t mean anything but it’s very arbitrary.
- Don’t lose sight of appreciating what each other do for each other. I may not go to work anymore but my life is consumed around my babies’ schedule. They are my full-time job. I work from 5:45 a.m. to 7:15ish p.m. My husband provides for us. Both equally important jobs but it gets easy to put that into perspective. Take acknowledgement of each other’s hard work and don’t take it for granted.
Even though we drive each other crazy sometimes, my husband is my best friend and I love him like crazy. He is my best friend, my partner in life and the best dad that I could ever ask to have for my babies. I can’t wait to see where this crazy journey will take us.
That’s enough sappiness for one day. Just wanted to share our wedding picture!